Heartbreak.Prayer.Love

Heartbreak.Prayer.Love

If trials and tribulations bring you closer to God,they are a blessing.I have heard that so often , so many times , so frequently but i guess i got lucky in 2018 . I cannot thank Allah enough for opening my eyes and showing me what unconditional love looks like .

I stumble across so many heartbreak posts on social media daily . People mentioning their breakup, broken engagements , finding it hard to get married and time after time getting hurt . I really want to to shower sunshine towards any one and everyone ready this .This is not an elixir but a gentle reminder to our souls and our hearts.

1. Getting Hurt:

We always get hurt when we hold expectations.We function with the heart.Humans have been designed that way .Allah mentions the heart more than 132 times in the Quran- sealed their hearts, opened their hearts, closed their hearts etc.It holds immense significance in describing our feelings.The heart expects from those who are near and dear to us: our loved ones,your significant other, your best friend or your family. I stumbled across someone’s tweet the other day where they mentioned how humans disappoint.The truth is: dunya would always disappoint.Wisdom is in understanding that.What we need to understand is that pain can be a form of making us understand the greater design: opening our heart to understand that humans, how good they are, cannot be perfect, can never be perfect.We need to have faith in God’s plan for us. Many a times, pain is thrown to give us a reminder that God is Al Wadud (The loving one) and His love is unconditional .It is a reminder to go back to Him ,remember and ask Him.It is a reminder to ask Him for anything: be it a person or any other thing!

2. Falling in Love:

Indeed one of the most beautiful thing in the world is falling in love.

There is a hadith of the Prophet Muhammad PBUH that i’d like to quote:

“There is nothing better for two who love one another than marriage.” - Ibn Majah

Imagine getting to spend the rest of your life with someone you are in love with! One of the most beautiful feeling is indeed to be in love but  if it consumes you, it can be one of the most tragic as well!

We have complicated this otherwise beautiful union in the most bizarre ways:-

Humans are in love  with the idea of love but i have come across so many who are not ready to make it happen!I know of so many who are looking for a significant other but cannot find someone.The irony is ,humans like to chase and in the chase we are blinded,unable to see the potential other(s) who exist around us.This way we end up losing people who are sincere with us, give us time, make time for us but we are so used to them being sincere and good with us that we cannot see them/do not want to see them as a potential other.'

There is another category ;a category that i’d  rather not spend my time explaining.We have them everywhere: in our circles, extended family but then a marriage based on a crooked base for material gain ,even if survives- crookedly stands tall.

Love is all about understanding, trusting, respecting each other, good-humour and giving space.Many people fall short on the last bit.We form unrealistic expectations from our potential partner.

Marriage should be a means to happiness and not an end to it.

God often takes away what we love the most to show us that a significant other should be a part of our life and not our life!

When you live your life with this rule you would start considering those as a potential match that you might have never thought of before or would have shrugged at the idea of being with them.

3 The fountain of life:

The fountain is fuelled by gratitude, humility and keeping the slate of heart clean.Though it might be hard to forgive, forgiveness can do wonders. Just thinking positively would reverberate the positive energy all around you! When you give more,more good will come towards you: tried and tested! Constant faith in God(he is All Hearing and All knowing) would help you steer your way. Remember,He knows what is in everyone’s heart and no matter what happens your prayer would be answered one way or the other. The Holy Prophet said and i quote “Allah is Most Generous, and He dislikes to turn away the empty hands of His slave when he raises them to Him.Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi.

My 2018 summed up beautifully .The last quarter (through some incidents)gave me a gift- a reminder  where God made me realise that everything has a time: a divine time and nothing can happen before it or after it! It has to happen then!Have faith, be open to options and stay positive! Sending truck loads of best wishes your way.May you find what you have been seeking for :)